Posts Tagged "work"

April Showers Bring May Flowers

Posted by MJ on May 1, 2011 in Life | 0 comments

That’s what the old stories of our youth say.  Wonder if April changes bring May ranges?  Hopefully May ranges would mean I’d have a house with room to range around outside…

But April was full of changes.  After the seminar in March I got a couple clients who wanted websites built.  Then I got a phone call from an old friend.  He needed help with pictures not showing on this website.  Well, it took a few minutes of digging to say “your server is screwed up.”

A few more things he had me check, then asked if I needed a job. Suddenly I was gainfully employed doing something I love to do.  Then I was asked to jump into the deep end of the adult pool, and realized that I had not been living up to my potential.

A few days passed.  I asked a simple question that had been bugging me for a while, to someone who once treated me special and had stopped.  Gifts and promises to call on X day were as real as mists upon the wind. So “Do you love me?” was answered with “if someone else has made you those promises go on.”

18 ~ Marriage is a Commitment to Work Together

Posted by MJ on Jan 4, 2011 in 30 Days of Truth | 0 comments

Today is another 30 Days of Truth. Day 18 → Your views on gay marriage.

This is a controversial issue. No matter what I say it will alienate me from some people, yet it may draw others closer. The only thing worse is Day 19 with Religion or politics, two things not to be discussed at dinner.

Well, it is 30 days of truth so let’s do this…

I was married.

The marriage failed.

It takes two people to make a marriage. In a business aspect if one partner did not contribute then the business would either fail or that partner would be eliminated. Yet in many marriages there is one person who does much if not all the work to try to keep the couple together or keep the house (in the broad sense of the term) functioning. When this becomes too unequal the marriage crumbles, just like the partnership.

How it crumbles varies. One or both look for love elsewhere, even if it is purely platonic after a while if love is elsewhere it is not home. The party that was doing most of the work goes back to the middle ground and waits for the other for a while, then the middle ground dissolves and the relationship is over.

My mom’s parents would have celebrated 65 years on January 19th. My parents have been married for 42 years. My brother for 11. It is a commitment for life, as long as both parties give and take.

No it is not 50/50. Sometimes it is 80/20, other times it is 25/75. The thing about it is that both people need to share, to love each other and be willing to make it work. You can not expect a house to maintain its condition or improve without working on it. The same is true with marriage, you must keep working on it. With dates, with small gifts of love, gifts of love can be as simple as holding hands just because, with acts of passion and compassion…

This is what I know.

Personally I want to marry a man who loves me, who cares about me, and I love and care about him. It must be both ways. That we have enough in common to have common ground and enough differences that we make it interesting. One who wants to travel and understands when I start going on book tours. We both will make a commitment to work together. But my financial situation is such I don’t care to think about that type of future right now…. so that’s for another day…

“But what about gay marriage?” you ask…

My answer is mixed in the words above and in this quote that touches my soul “The heart wants what the heart wants” the grandfather from “Walk in the Clouds.”

That is what I know…

Love, Work, and Love Some More,

MJ Schrader

January 8th will be Day 20 → Your views on drugs and alcohol.

Return from Babysitting

Posted by MJ on Apr 23, 2010 in Life | 0 comments

Well, I haven’t written a personal blog entry in a while. I could give excuses, but simply I didn’t have enough time to gather my thoughts to tell you what all is on my mind and what all was/ is happening.

New Experience: Babysitting

In February I accepted a job babysitting, daily 2 pm to 1am.  She is 4, a great kid.  Her parents are wonderful friends.  However this was a lot of time to be with a child who doesn’t bark or meow, when that’s been your only children.   (My only pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I am trying to get comfortable with saying that… not easy.)

Lessons Learned

So the many hours and quite a bit of thoughts going on in my head I have not been writing my personal weekly blog. Not to say I have been sitting idly watching her and doing nothing else.  I worked with her on writing, cutting, pasting and measuring ingredients.  She rather enjoyed measuring rice crispy treats. (BTW leave out one crispy per each cup when you are doing this with a kid or if you are like me you will lose count, plus it helps her count).

She worked with me on patience and learning how to explain things better. Children need very specific instructions and sometimes so do we as adults. She had very specific terms she wanted to use, to her a shopping cart is a buggie. Shopping cart was not acceptable. Yet, as adults we forget that other countries and even other parts of our country have different terms, like pop, soda, and here “Coke”  while cringing at the word “pop.” So I learned a lot which I hope helps in my future teaching “how to” projects.

Expert Author

(♥ love that my name is attached to Author ♥) During that time I also worked on writing, improving both speed and consistency. While I was not writing here, I was submitting articles to Ezine Articles. I decided to write 100 articles in 2 months. 100 in 56 days. I did it in 48. Now there are 114 articles on Ezine Articles, 50 are published elsewhere and over 4500 views.

Also did quite a bit of thinking.  There is something to be said for trying something different. Yes, I needed money, (still do) but I didn’t babysit when I was a teenager.  I have for friends, but only a few hours, several kids and a few hours I was cooked.  So this was an experiment to see what I could learn.

I learned how to get more done in less time. Although now that I am not babysitting my schedule is wonky due to some other problems and I am doing less. Also I realized some changes need to be made. Like I can take on odd jobs doing graphics work, website set ups and even answer questions to make some money.

Do you need Graphics?  WordPress help?  Installation?

That being said, if you need graphics work, website set ups, or WordPress questions answered contact me. I am taking in jobs.   Just send a message via Twitter @LoveRockstar or Facebook.  I am taking in 3

There is more to be said, but that’s for another post.

Live ♥ Laugh ♥ Love

~ MJ Schrader